The Families Connect concept was born out of a fishing trip and the desire to create and nurture better relationships with our families.
Families Connect is ecumenical. We promote no particularly religious point-of-view and respects the many traditions. Families Connect welcomes and supports all families—traditional families, single parent families, blended families, families with same sex parents.
- Children always know if they are your priority, or if something else is.
- Family meals are important. Not only for the routine, but also for providing a forum for sharing the events of the day and building family memories.
- Your children know (or can at least sense) everything that is happening in the family; make that your operating assumption.
- Failure is OK; it is even necessary. We cannot protect our children from failure, and do them a disservice if we try. The only way children build self-confidence is trying, failing, trying again and succeeding. A skinned knee can be a blessing.
- We can, and must, make sure they always know they are loved. We let them skin a knee, but also comfort them and provide the Band-Aid.
- We hold the solutions to our problems. We must all take personal responsibility for our lives. You are not trapped in a hopeless situation; you can help yourself.
- Be realistic. The world is other than us and doesn’t always bend to our will or accommodate our desires. Face the world as it is.
- Routine, predictability and consistency are important. The child’s identity is built every day. Consistency from parents as to what is important and what is expected is critical.
- Your children are not extensions of you. They are independent people; even if very young. You cannot create a confident child if you do everything for them.
- Never underestimate your child, however, old or young. What they are capable of thinking and doing and becoming will likely astound you.
- Deeply hear and see the other.